Saturday, June 27, 2009

Giving Up or Not Backing Down, When and Which


One uneventful Monday morning, I was greeted with some news that would definitely not make our nations headlines but somehow struck me with a pint of inexplicable sadness. It’s not everyday that you get to meet people you learn to trust and bond with, and learning about their not so accepted departure is but sudden and as Shakespeare put it "parting is such sweet sorrow".

Putting in my optimistic perspective is a must for these kinds of occasions, yet oftentimes in our life, we are dazed with the choices we have to make such as whether to give up to the challenges of everyday living, or to continue pressing your foot on the pedal and pursue the eventual happiness and contentment we so longed to have. The decision-making part is the tricky one as only history will be the judge as to whether the choices you made eventually made you a better person or more of a morbid loser.

I'm not one who gives up easily as I'm a strong advocate of keeping your head on the fight as long as you can. Challenges builds up character, character your confidence, and confidence your self-esteem and overall perspective in life. On big thing though that I learned that day is that sometimes, you also need to know what you're just capable of at the moment, and despite vehemently denying and begging to disagree on this premise, to a certain extent it is but factual and even more logical if you put in the inexplicable problems we normally tag along. Others may say that problems are but normal, it's just like the air we breathe, without it, and we became weak. On the other side of the coin, we may need to fail and give up to learn the valuable lessons on how to overcome it the next time it happens, after all what goes around comes around.

Nonetheless, I just hope that whatever decisions we make, we made it because we're at peace with it and that we're happy with it. Pleasing other people is a cardinal sin for life-altering decisions. It should not be the feather that tips the scales to their favor. Instead, it should be whatever that makes you happy and content that should prevail. To part with, we may never want others to leave because we've grown so accustomed to their presence, but keeping them when they want to let go is just being plain selfish. We never want them to give up, but at the end of the day, they will be the ones who have the choices to make. After all, it's not about giving up or never backing down, it's what you do after it that matters...